Monday, 17 November 2008

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  • YalondaLopez77
    am not afraid of commentment because i personaly feel that if you love someone so deeply and your passionate about the person then you would have no problom commitmenting to the relationship and if you keep god in the middle then you shouldn't be scaried
  • JBunny
    Not at all. I think men are the scarred ones sometimes(some), only because some can't deal with responsibilities if the worse happens. That's why some deal with girls who are in relationships they know they don't have to get married, have kids or even buy her anything. So basically this goes back to your blog about "comfort". Their aren't too many creators called "men" out there who are ready.
  • kytarra

    no, because is you really truely love that person you dont think about the bad you only think about the good like yalonda said if you have GOD in your relationship dont else should matter.
  • MichiraW

    I don't know where YALL go "fishing" (lol), butunfortunately the fish that swim my way aren't always commitment worthy. Sorry, but I have yet to meet oh so many that make me feel THAT secure... to the point where I can let ALL of my defenses down every time (or even almost every time) I become involved with someone new. But I'm not one to "count my chickens before they hatch" or to "put all of my eggs in one basket" anyway so...


    Commitment requires trust (and that was quite a generalization). Granted, nobody is perfect... and I can't bring myself to completely trust someone else's imperfections, especially when I don't know what they are. Personally, I'm defensive by nature; I'm ONE of the gatekeepers to my heart, which just so happens to be protected by thick walls built with "bricks of steel." Obviously, there's something VERY valuable hidden behind those walls...


    So until I am sure... and oh yes, believe that I take my time in deciding... I'll keep the key to my commitment to myself (lol). Commitment... what's that? Ohhhh, that's that thing in relationships that requires MUTUAL effort right? Ohhh ok... well I am no expert in that area. I commit to Mi, my heart, and my well being as a person... and my momma... and my creator, amen. In terms of all of those other strangers that I don't know... either give me a few amazing reasons or kick rocks! LOL.


    _8|*chira*|8_
  • MichiraW

    [singing] "All my single ladies... ALL my single ladies... all my single ladies... ALL my single ladies..."


    Whoa-oh-ohhh... oh-oh ohhh oh-oh ohhhh... oh oh oh... Lol.


    With that being said, I'm okay with it just being me. I've taken time to get to know me better... and I'm awesome, lol. Knowing your self-worth and appreciating you for you is an amazing feeling... even if others don't. I "dibble and dabble" every now and then tho ;) If I wasn't Mi, I wouldn't blame me either.


    _8|*chira*|8_
  • LilEssence03

    not afraid of commitment, afraid of letting the walls down, committing and finding out down the road that the commitment wasn't matched and that everything was for nothing. again. lol...
  • Crystal0986@xanga

    Hmmm...AM I afraid of commitment? I think I'm more so afraid of bein hurt. Committing is not really the prob. lol
  • valbaby

    I am afraid of commitment because I dont think he will commit to me. LOl that is why, but I have a lot of reason,but not going to get in to detail
  • Addctd2Candy@xanga

    No I'm not afraid of commitment at all i welcome it with open arms. I mean there is always the possibility of getting hurt but if you don't ever put yourself out there and get serious with someone how will you know ever know if they are the one. In love you have to take risks sometimes and put yourself out there as they say the bigger the risk the bigger the reward. 
  • Diamondmg
    Something sweet.

    Commitment can be scary...

  • RubyLeo2008

    i'm not afraid of commitment though i do feel that if you want to be commited to that person that you shouldn't be afraid and face whatever comes at you together.
  • monalovesomari76

    nah boo..never afraid of commitment..especially if its the right person but you have to becareful and make sure u have chosen the right person and when u do make sure the both of u want the same thing:)peace and love and if not sometime u have to let go..but if that person is right for u then u will know.
  • omarion1

    I am not afarid to commit...Love is a beautiful thing you really have noting to be afarid of..

  • Shayeage23

    Men are usually more afriad than women are. Well, I wouldn't say afraid, it's more so a control thing with men. for some reason men think women want to be their "momma" when, for some women, that ain't what it is. They don't realize that we give our opinion, that don't mean you gotta do it. It means think about it. Women... it's more of a "I don't want to get hurt" thing and we fall "in love" too damn easily, what we think is love that is actually infatuation or lust. And then sometimes we get that one nigga, that one that fuck up for everybody. But as women we need to start protecting ourselves and stop wearing our hearts on our sleeves and get some sense.


    I guess it's the responsibilities that come with commitment, love and respect and being an adult basically. I'll say it's the responsibility that people run from, when people don't realize that these things that they're running from come natural. It only becomes a problem if into one.
  • omarion

    honestly.. i believe that men mature at a different time in life than woman do!!.. some guys are chicken ishh lol.. but understand that they may just not be ready to take that step in life kuz thats not what they desire..

    but then there are some guys that wish for that..
  • omarion

    women.. i feel as if a woman kan shy away kuz she is afraid of where the guy is in life...where he truly wants to be in the relationship.. uncertainty.. afraid of the unknown...
  • LilEssence03@xanga

    @omarion - that's where communication is SUPPOSED to come into play. it seems like whenever people come to me with relationship issues, whether the relationship is just starting or their married and everything in between, it always stem from miscommunication. even from personal experiences, miscommunication caused a lot of problems...


    not saying im the world's greatest communicator, lol, but i definitely feel these things would definitely go way smoother if people wouldnt be so afraid to communicate their wants...their needs...their expectations, desires, fears, etc...
  • caramelgirl_1990

    @omarion -  First of all i agree with the Statement that Guys, Men mature in a different time to be honest  they mature slower  then girls, women do :) I still know guys in ma age 18 19 and they still kinda immature (that doesn't mean though im mature u never  really are complitely mature cause everyday u learning somethin new what makes you who you are  your experiences) but that doesn't mean all do i mean there are still exceptions but unfortunately not many
    Now to the commitement
    I never been in a relationship
    but i think when both really mean somethin to eachother and got truly feelings for eachother then it must be no problem
    For me personally, thats how a SERIOUS  relationship works :) its just really important to can talk bout everything that bothers you or not and if someones not ready to take  that step then its good to let the other person know so that this person can have clarity its all about understanding eachother
    I also think women should never pressure a guy too much
    guys are extremely sensitive to pressure just let things flow
    Step by step.. :) 

    Sophia
  • kimrey84

    @omarion - i
    agree. I mean we all have that underlying fear of not knowing what's to
    come. Sometimes that fear comes from things that we're experienced in
    life.

    Like when my ex and I were together I had a hard time
    letting him do things for me in the beginning. Growing up I was raised
    to be strong, handle my own responsibilities, and not depend on others
    for things. So, when the time came and he wanted me to just sit back
    and let him take care of things I couldn't do it. I knew he was able to
    and he would, but I had that nagging doubt in my mind that if I didn't
    do it myself it wouldn't happen.

    But then too, if you really mean
    something to me and you're a major part of my life I'll do any and
    everything for you and give my all to you.

    To be committed to
    someone I think you have to have complete trust and faith in that
    person and willing to make sacrifices as well. It's almost like being
    submissive. You're willing to put things you want to the side to show
    the one you're with that you really care about them.
  • omariontyaja

    i hear dat hot shit.....!!!!


    im glad dat yu feel comfortable to express ya self in such way with us females that wanna no..!! thanksz!!
  • TheatricalSpiritLady09

    You've got an iPhone too? Cool.  Anyways, what you said is true.  A pure love does banish all fears, but sometimes people can't see that their love is pure, because their fears (or those from the ppl they trust) are tough to beat back.
  • lagunamoon

    True love eliminates any fear, and a pure heart has no fears of surrender completely to another. Life is too short to have fears about love.
  • Jalatina

    @omarion - I agree with you Omari. I personally will love to commit one day, but at the moment I would be afraid of the unknown. Because as a female I would be committing my life into the hands of another person. I have to think of my security and my stablity, will he support my dreams... It's so different to just date because technically your still your own person, but with marriage you are becoming one with someone else. Then for you to invest yourself into this marriage and it doesn't work would be devastating. I do plan to marry one day but I have to be COMPLETELY ready.'Cause I want it to be forever. I want him to be right so I have to be right too.
  • jaydotgeedot

    Many people say nowadays 'I'm not ready to have a boyfriend/girlfriend'. It's so simple to say like that, but honestly they're not ready TO BE a girlfriend/boyfriend and it's a difference... People say there's no love without sacrifices, but isn't it a little different - there are no sacrifices without love?
    Saint Exupery said 'True love is inexhaustible - the more you give, the more you have'...
  • kam

    wow omarion, for a guy ure rlly i duno how 2 put it in words but kinda deep duno if its da ryt word im lukin for but its a gud thing...nd uv matured...mhhh ure 24!! omd aww hope u had a gr8 1, nd ye let me knw wen ucumin down b'ham/uk again nxt.. TC xxx


    nd 2 dat question, in a relationship personally i wdnt get in2 one if i thawt itzz nt gona work out cuz ppl say jus hav fun bt itz not allll abt dat, so wen i get in2 one id wana commit nd wud want da sme bak frm da man...bt lets c if ill eva find mr perfect (in my eyes) haha

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